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Harm OCD Treatment: Mindfulness Based CBT

    

The OCD Center of Los Angeles discusses treatment of Harm OCD using Mindfulness Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.   Part two of an ongoing series.

Mindfulness for Harm OCD
Mindfulness Based CBT is a key component of
successful treatment for Harm OCD.

In our previous installment of this series, we defined the symptoms of a sub-type of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) known as Harm OCD. The defining characteristics of Harm OCD are intrusive thoughts of a harming/violent nature (obsessions), and the behavioral response of engaging in physical and mental strategies (compulsions) in an effort to relieve the inherent discomfort one experiences when having these thoughts. In upcoming articles in this series, we will discuss each of the main elements of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) used to treat this form of OCD.

Psychoeducation and the Treatment of Harm OCD

The first step in treating Harm OCD is psychoeducation. Unfortunately, sufferers who are not already well-versed in OCD are likely to approach treatment with extreme apprehension and doubt. This is because the pain of being burdened with unwanted thoughts of causing harm has worn them down to a point that they may genuinely believe it’s possible that a therapist will take one look at them, smile, and call the men in white coats. So before any discussion of treatment can begin, a Harm OCD sufferer has to have a better understanding of the nature of the condition, and why some people are hyper-aware of these types of thoughts, while others appear not to be.

To know that something is dark, we must have in my mind some concept of what it means to be bright. To understand peace, we must also have thoughts that are defined by their violent content. Otherwise there would be no frame of reference for understanding its opposite. For most, a thought of happiness is unencumbered by thoughts of sadness. But in OCD, the sufferer’s awareness of this “un-thought” is greater. This awareness is then responded to with fear and disgust, thus making it much more powerful and significant than it need be. This process is described well in Lee Baer’s landmark book on Pure Obsessional OCD, Imp of the Mind.

Violence exists. Therefore having violent thoughts is a normal and essential part of being conscious. For those suffering with Harm OCD, what makes this condition so challenging is the presentation of these normal thoughts at such an intense and intrusive level. If these intrusive, unwanted harm thoughts were simply passing by, we could overlook them. But these violent thoughts often hit hard and stick. For those with Harm OCD, it is not easy to acknowledge and accept the presence of these thoughts as being merely some sort of magnification of a “normal” thought process. For this, we must turn to treatment.

Treatment for Harm OCD

The only form of treatment worth taking seriously for Harm OCD (or any type of OCD) is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This approach to therapy for OCD has been repeatedly researched, and has consistently been found to be the most effective treatment for all forms of the condition, including Harm OCD. Within the overall framework of CBT, one will gain the most benefit from three specific CBT techniques: Mindfulness-Based CBT, Cognitive Restructuring, and a specific behavioral therapy technique known as Exposure with Response Prevention (ERP).

Mindfulness Based CBT For the Treatment of Harm OCD

If you look at the brain as a thought-generator, then you can define the mind as that which receives and processes these thoughts. Few thoughts make it from the brain to the processing center. Most thoughts are out of sight, out of mind. They barely register as blips on the radar screen and no matter how peculiar they may be, they are given little to no attention. When they do make it to the processing center, (i.e., to our full awareness), these thoughts are assumed to be relevant to our experience.

If I have a thought about the sky being blue, that will most likely not be placed front and center for further analysis. It doesn’t matter much what I do with that innocuous bit of information. But if I have a thought about something itching, then that thought will jump to the front of the line so I can assess what behavior it should be met with. Scratching seems appropriate, unless I’m posing for a picture or have peanut butter on my fingers. Then maybe I’ll just acknowledge the itch, but not respond to it.

The problem with OCD is that thoughts sometimes skip to the front of the line as part of a glitch in the system. They slip through a crack in the dam and show up uninvited. So the same part of me asking what I should do about my itch is suddenly appearing to ask what I should do about murdering my family.

You Are Not Crazy and These Are Normal Thoughts

I’ll have to sit with the uncertainty over how many readers have stopped at this point. After all, how can a thought about hurting a loved one or killing myself be called normal? To understand this, one must take a moment to consider what a thought really is. A thought is a mental event. It is a word we use to describe a link Mindfulness Workbook for OCDbetween a chemical reaction in the brain and our awareness of it. A chemical event occurs, something happens, and then we become aware of that thing and call it a thought. The judgment of “normal” vs. “abnormal” is used only to describe how we interpret that thought and what behaviors we choose to apply it to. The thought itself is nothing more than ones and zeroes, so how can it be anything but normal?

As I write this and I consider the kinds of thoughts that Harm OCD sufferers find themselves stuck on, the following thought pops into my head: “I will go home and murder my family when this article is finished”. Now, I can try to justify my awareness of this thought by attending to the context of what I was writing previously – that I was considering examples of typical Harm OCD thoughts. But I can’t know for sure if that’s the truth. Perhaps that thought actually represents a genuine, hidden desire to kill my family. How can I know for sure? Well, I can’t know and I don’t particularly care. After work, I will probably go home and have dinner. We’ll have to see what happens after that. In any case, the harm thought itself is not problematic. Its content may disturb you, but its existence is unimpressive at every level. It is, after all, just a thought.

As discussed above, harm thoughts, ugly as their content may appear, are normal, uninteresting events that occur in the brain. The problem is that individuals with Harm OCD judge these thoughts, over-process them, and distort them into threats. But thoughts are just thoughts, not threats. If a harm thought occurs, but there is no awareness of it, it either exists or does not, but in any case it is not a threat. If a harm thought occurs and we are aware of it, the tendency is to go straight into judgment and analysis. This immediately takes the concept of “thought” and changes it to an object of fear.

Treatment with Mindfulness-Based CBT focuses on training yourself to maintain an observational, rather than judgmental, stance towards your thoughts, feelings, urges, and physical sensations. It means letting go of the need to be the actor/director and taking the opportunity to simply be the camera instead.

For mindfulness to be effective at all, one must start from the perspective of accepting the presence of their unwanted harm thoughts. Note that accepting that a harm thought exists is not the same thing as accepting what the harm thought implies after you judge it. The goal of Mindfulness Based CBT is disarmingly simple – to accept the reality of the existence of our intrusive, unwanted thoughts, without attributing any special meaning, value, or judgment to them. For those with Harm OCD, this means accepting that harm thoughts exist, without assuming that they must have some inherently profound meaning about our character and/or intent.

Because many Harm OCD sufferers fear that their thoughts represent a real and  imminent danger that must be immediately addressed, the very practice of mindfulness itself often becomes a challenging form of behavioral therapy known as Exposure with Response Prevention (ERP).  The following installments in this series will focus on ERP, as well as on a technique known as “Cognitive Restructuring”, and how modifying the way you think about the content of your thoughts can help you choose less compulsive behavioral responses to the unwanted thoughts of Harm OCD.

To take our free confidential online test for Harm OCD, click here.

To read part one in our series on Harm OCD, click here.

To read part three in our series on Harm OCD, click here.

To read part four in our series on Harm OCD, click here.

The OCD Center of Los Angeles is a private, outpatient clinic specializing in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for the treatment of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and related anxiety based conditions.  In addition to individual therapy, the center offers six weekly therapy groups, as well as online therapy, telephone therapy, and intensive outpatient treatment.  To contact the OCD Center of Los Angeles, click here.

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100 Comments

  • Excellent post that does a great job of explaining how thoughts are just thoughts and nothing more. I like how you describe the thoughts of OCD sufferers as often “skipping to the front of the line.” I look forward to to the next article in the series.

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  • I´m a CBT therapist in Buenos Aires, Argentina. Both articles of Harm OCD has been of great help in my practice (i have translated some parts of both articles for one of my patients). Thank you very much for sharing your knowledge!

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  • I found the image at the top with the bloody knife extremely triggering. I almost avoided reading the article all together, which would’ve been a shame because it’s really helpful.

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  • I like the article sounds exactly like me I have had a anxiety disorder for 20yrs and never had these thoughts until one day it popped in my head then i went on a downward spiral now i constantly think like i am going to harm someone and it causes bad anxiety i hate it I hope this will help me Thanks!

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  • Hi Abby, thanks for your comment about the picture we chose for the article. This is a good example of how Harm OCD uses a cognitive distortion called “selective abstraction” to draw your attention to the negative aspects of things related to your obsession before allowing you to see the bigger issue. The picture of the knife is something found on a generic library of stock pictures, something anyone may encounter anywhere. But your ocd drives you to avoid these images because they are associated with discomfort. In treatment, you would not only want to be doing exposure to triggering imagery, but also working on mindful acceptance of the fact that these pictures trigger thoughts and these thoughts are not threats, despite their unpleasant content.

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  • Joe, glad to hear you identified with the article. It’s not unusual for harm thoughts to suddenly appear after a long battle with anxiety. Try to remember that when you say thoughts of harm cause you anxiety, what you really are describing is your reaction to these thoughts after assessing them as meaningful and unacceptable. In Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, you would work on changing the way you respond to these thoughts and would begin to see them as less threatening and less demanding of your attention.

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    • Thank Your articles are awesome and its time we beat this battle of anxiety and obsessiveness love you guy’s for your help on these topic’s Amen!

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      • Awww – thank you Joe! That is the nicest thing I’ve read today.

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  • It’s interesting that you say harm thoughts sometimes occur after a long battle with anxiety. I recently suffered a relapse and after a month of dealing with the theme that caused it, I suddenly began having harm thoughts. Is there a reason why this theme comes up after a long period of anxiety? Thanks so much.

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  • Hi Renee, sorry for the delayed response, missed your post. It’s very common for OCD to shift from one obsession to another. I think a good way to look at it is that the OCD is aiming for the most reliable food source. Compulsions are the food. Whatever you had been obsessing about previously, it was important enough to you that you were willing to do compulsions to try to escape it. When you stopped doing compulsions, the OCD just moved to whatever else might get you to do compulsions. This could have been anything, but happened to be Harm OCD. Or we could theorize that it was Harm OCD in particular because there’s something nihilistic about violent thoughts and it’s the place we go to when we can’t think of anything worse.

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  • Hello, thanks for your blog, this is the first time I read something that named what I have which is harm OCD, I am seeing a psychologist right now and having cbt as treatment but all she say about what I am experiencing is anxiety. It happened a month ago and it changes a lot in my life. At first I would feel nervous and simply had hard time concentrating, I was shaking so bad that my teeth were chatting together I felt as is if cold. Then as I was chopping onion a thought occurred that what if I harm my family with the knife and then my hands started trembling. It seems my emotions evade me I can’t feel happiness or sadness and this made more worried. Thoughts of what if started to come. When with my sister’s baby i would feel that I might bite his ear and there is an urge that made me afraid, and when I saw someone in the hospital a woman operated, the smell of the iodine made me think of eating the part of her wound. Then sometimes I would think that what I have will progress to something that I will be crazy. When I hear someone talking about people loosing their mind I kind stop spaced out for a minute. Now with my psychologist help I was able to hold a knife again without trembling but there will be time that a thought will come what if I loose control and sway the knife while my nephew is playing. Sometimes I will just ignore the thought but sometimes I will be bothered by it because I want to do something that will stop it. My greatest assurance is God is in control even if I’m not and he would let harm come to me or to any of my family member. Hope you can give me more insight to this. Thanks.

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  • Hi Mae, thanks for your comment. It definitely sounds like Harm OCD. Anxiety plays a role in this, but people report feeling disturbed, unhappy, or disgusted by their thoughts as well, so chalking it all up to simple anxiety doesn’t really do it justice. Ultimately, you have ocd, a disorder that involves unwanted intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors that you use to deal with them. In your case the compulsions would be analyzing the meaning of your thoughts, avoiding triggers, seeking reassurance, and more I’m sure. That’s great that your therapist was able to help you be around knives again. The next step would be to work on your Mindfulness skills and start viewing your thoughts as thoughts, not threats. As thoughts, you can invite them in, let them go through you, and not put much attention toward what they could mean.

    Since you mentioned that your faith is helpful for you, you might find Ian Osborn’s book “Can Christianity Cure OCD” to be helpful. I also highly recommend reading Lee Baer’s “Imp of the Mind”, which helps explain why we become aware of thoughts like these.

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  • Thank you so much for this! I recently started experiencing symptoms that are almost certainly Harm OCD (thoughts of hurting myself which morphed into thoughts of harming my loved ones) I’ve been reacting to these thoughts by having episodes of anxiety and depression. I initially thought that having those types of reactions was a good thing because it proved that the thoughts were totally abhorrent to me. After reading this article I realize that those reactions are NOT helpful because they lend power to the thoughts and do nothing to help me recognize them as simple ordinary thoughts. The phrase “unimpressive at every level” really stood out to me and is something that I will definitely keep in mind whenever those thoughts arise. Once again, thank you so much for this. It’s the best piece on the subject that I’ve found online and I anxiously (haha) await the next installment.

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  • Daniel, thanks for your comment and I’m really happy the articles have resonated for you. You demonstrate good insight into the issue of using disgust as a form of self-reassurance. Seeing the harm thoughts as simple data showing up on your mind satellite will help you to respond to them like what they really are – thoughts. You may also want to check out our articles on Cognitive Restructuring for Harm OCD and Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) for Harm OCD.

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  • Thanks for your website. I have suffered from harming OCD since I was 12 (36 now). It has affected my life very much. It has been under control for many years with Paxil, though it takes outside stimuli as well. I recently had a relapse causing me and my family much stress. I am planning on moving to a happier place, and the OCD has begun to ruin these positives. I certainly will use your CBT techniques. Thanks to everyone!

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  • This is a great article..and very helpful.. i suffered mostly hit and run ocd..and harm ocd..i have been treated with CBT..and after a good stress, a happiness which was a love feelling, a past idea came to my mind..Some years ago i went to a strangers house because i wanted to get reassurance, that i was not responsible for the accident that happenned to her relative..i remember didnt open the door, and she told me to leave, otherwise she would call the police..the idea that i upset her and caused her a heart attack or something, is killing me.. i would like to ask you: is it common for ocd that i feel guilt about the past? is it common for ocd that i thing i caused death to a stranger in the past? i always read about the fear that has someone to harm people in the future…what about me, that i thing i harmed people in the past? how will i be conveinced that i didnt caused harm to someone, and this guilt is an ocd symptom?
    thank you very much in advane!

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  • Kenny, thanks for your comment. I highly recommend getting treatment from an ocd specialist if you can. The techniques described in these articles work, but the guidance of a trained cbt therapist can be an important part of applying them.

    Be careful with the use of black-and-white hyperbole in the way you frame your experiences. OCD likes to think it can “ruin” “positives”. Unpleasant experiences happen in otherwise positive experiences, so describing them as “ruining” them rather than “affecting your enjoyment of” them plays into the ocd’s power.

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  • Hi Maria, thanks for your comments and I’m glad the article has been helpful for you.

    To your questions:
    >>>is it common for ocd that i feel guilt about the past?

    —-Yes. The important thing to remember is that the presence of guilty feelings is not evidence of having committed a crime. Feelings come and go. Guilt feelings are often just a trap set by the ocd to get you back to your compulsive reviewing. The trick is to identify it as a feeling and not assume it is an important one.

    >>>is it common for ocd that i thing i caused death to a stranger in the past? i always read about the fear that has someone to harm people in the future…what about me, that i thing i harmed people in the past?

    —-In my experience of treating people with ocd, the report of thoughts about the potential of harming people in the future or having harmed people in the past is a 50/50 split.

    >>>how will i be convinced that i didnt caused harm to someone, and this guilt is an ocd symptom?

    —When you stop trying to convince yourself of something that cannot be proven. If you spent all day trying to convince yourself that I was responding to your questions, you would eventually begin to doubt it and be concerned that someone else was doing it. Instead, you look at the evidence and accept the uncertainty that remains. Thus, the assumption feels safe. Look at “trying to convince” as a compulsion to gain certainty, just another form of mental handwashing, something to be resisted.

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  • Thank you so much for your article. Is comforting to know that there are others experincing the same thing and there is treatment for it. Can you develop ocd out of the blue? I’m 29 years old and I have always been a little anxious (don’t like speaking in public, worrying about what others think of me etc) but never to the point that I became obsessional. About a month a ago i had a panic attack after watching a show where a man killed his son. I found it so disturbing that I thought about it all night. I started having thoughts that I might become like this man and kill my children which quickly morhped into a fear of becoming a pediophile. I never in my life had such awful thoughts and the fact that I’m thinking them especially around my nieces and newphews is even more disturbing. Also, I have such a physical reaction (tingling sensations) that I’m worried it means I secretly enjoy these thoughts. I’m seeing a therapist now but i’m too ashamed to tell him the thoughts I’m having. Because I never suffered from ocd in the past I’m also scared that its not ocd and I truly am this pervert that i m scared of becoming.

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  • Hi Vicki, thanks for your comment. I’m sure a lot more readers can relate than you might imagine. Late onset ocd is actually pretty common and I’ve seen many people with little or no OCD symptoms in their past suddenly develop an obsession (usually Harm OCD in my experience). This can be especially terrifying for someone not used to experiencing unwanted thoughts that stick around, often targeting a loved one. It’s not an indicator of the validity of your unwanted thoughts.

    No one really knows exactly why some people develop ocd symptoms in early childhood and some people develop them later on. I have seen it occur simultaneously with stress in late onset ocd, as if the stress beings the ocd to the surface, but that’s just anecdotal. In any case, the treatment is the same. You will want to share your experience with your therapist and ask if they know how to treat ocd with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) with an emphasis on Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). If you do not feel that sharing these thoughts with your therapist is safe, then seek out an ocd specialist directly.

    “Tingling sensations” and other bodily responses to triggers are typical. Consider that attention given to ANY body part is going to cause some awareness of sensation in that part (think of your left ear really hard right now, for example). It’s just that we have difficulty resisting the urge to search for meaning in sensations that occur in some places more than others.

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  • It actually surprizes me there are other people with this problem. For many years since I was a small child I was too afraid to say anything to anyone about it, I still fear being put into a mental ward. All sorts of horrifying images in my mind haunt me every day, randomly popping up whenever they seem fit to. Its almost debilitating, elevators breaking down and falling while I’m inside, bridges crumbling apart beneath me or driving up over the side, driving on the highway and a semi-truck falling over on its side crushing my car with me and my kids inside, I cant get near windows pass the 3rd floor in a building in fear of what my mind might come up with. Even random objects become weapons for my mind to torture me with, spoons pop out eyeballs, pencils can be shoved into the neck or eye, i cant stand being in the kitchen when someone uses the garbage disposal I see whoever is using it hand inside it being ground up. Writing up all this is starting to bring on a panic attack because im seeing it all at once.

    The only things that ever kept me from thinking/seeing these thoughts in my head was sleeping, sex, acceptable mutilation such as tattoos and peircings (the numbing pain is distracting enough for a little while), unacceptable mutilation such as cutting (same reasoning). I have honestly thought of going extreeme to just stop seeing these images. Its getting to the point to where I’m not sure I can handle it anymore. Is there places in Virginia to go seek help?

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  • Kim, the appearance of intrusive harm thoughts can take many different forms, including the association of meaningless objects as weapons or the visualization of things in your environment being destroyed, exploding, etc. These thoughts are normal events that occur in the brain and are problematic for you only because of the way you respond to them. Cutting and other self-mutilating behaviors are a strategy for regulating your emotions. In addition to cbt for your ocd, it would probably be a good idea to get DBT (dialectic behavioral therapy) for learning how to better regulate your more extreme emotional states. For ocd treatment, you can go to https://iocdf.org and search for providers in your area.

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  • I am so, SO grateful to have found this site! I read the Imp of the Mind about 6 years and found great solace in it. However, naming it “harm ocd” and recognizing the compulsion to review thoughts/action as the “c” in “ocd” is new to me. I always just say that I have the “o”. The intrusive thoughts I’ve had since at least my early 20’s (am 40 now) and luckily I have finally found a therapist who is helping me address them. I’m finally at the point where I am able to recognize them just as thoughts, I refer to them as “faulty coping mechanisms” as they usually come up if I’m in an uncomfortable situation where I, for example, have to stand up for myself. I could absolutely relate to the person who wrote about spoons and pencils becoming instruments of destruction in her mind. It’s horrible!! Sewing needles are one of my old obsessions, >proceed with caution< I used to worry that I would sneeze and stab myself in the eye with it. Like others, I was terrified for years that I would get locked up if I spoke about it. I made the decision a year ago to "say ALL my crazy out loud" and here I am, not in the least bit locked up and far happier than I've been in years : )
    I'm so glad to know that this has a name, and that your center exists. Thank you!

    Also, comedian Maria Bamford has fantastic skits about this, she is also someone who gives me great hope.

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    • Hi Jen,

      Thank you for your comments and for your kind words.

      The “Imp of the Mind” is a superb book, and we recommend it to all of our clients with Harm OCD (and any other variant of OCD that is considered “Pure O”).

      It is great that you are becoming more adept at recognizing that your thoughts are just thoughts. Everybody has irrational / unwanted thoughts that don’t deserve their time or attention.

      I am not familiar with Maria Bamford, but I will look for her as I am now curious about her work. Thank you for bringing her to our attention.

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  • Found your website searching the web and I have to admit I laughed a lot because when you see your symptoms written down by someone else you realise that even though these thoughts are so painful that on the other hand they can appear rudiculous.

    My own Harm OCD started many years ago I am now 45 but I was abused in a remote location by a stranger at age 13.Since my late twenties I started to become exposed to children as my siblings began to have children. I noticed in their company that I felt very uneasy specifically if I was left alone with them.Therefore I avoided any physical contact and would refuse to babysit for anybody for fear I may harm them.My on off girlfriend became pregnant when I was 41 and when my son was born .I was feeding him 3 days later and had a flashback that I was the abuser and my son was me.I had a what I describe as a panic meltdown and medicated myself heavily to reduce the thoughts.

    Since then I am totally terrified that I may hurt him either sexually or physically which distresses me greatly as I love him more than anything in this world.I have pushed myself to do things that escalate these thoughts ie changing his nappy because I love my son.I now live alone as I feel I cannot hurt anyone but these demons as I call them attack me on a constant basis they can be applied to anyone even my little dog which is crazy I know.

    I now find myself kind of numbed out which makes the OCD worse as I push the intrusive thought to try to get a feeling which does not come and makes me feel worse about myself.Apologies for the long intro here but was wondering which kind of therapy would suit me best I have done talk therapy for several years on and off without success.Keep up the good work

    Warm regards

    Terry

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    • Hi Terry,

      I’m glad to hear that you were able to laugh at the symptoms described in our article. One of the most important steps in treatment is to stop taking one’s thoughts so seriously – to be able to laugh at just how ludicrous our thoughts can be.

      You mentioned a number of compulsive and avoidant behaviors you have done or are currently doing, all of which are counter-productive. Specifically:

        ~avoiding physical contact with children
        ~choosing to live alone for fear of hurting someone
        ~refusing to babysit
        ~self-medicating in an effort to reduce your anxiety
        ~trying to generate a certain kind of (good) feeling

      Unfortunately, while these types of behaviors may work in the very short term, in the long term, they only serve to reinforce the OCD, and ultimately lead to more obsessions (which of course leads to more counter-productive compulsions).

      As for the best treatment, the research is conclusive that the most effective treatment for OCD is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). You may also want to learn about integrating mindfulness with CBT.

      Take care.

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  • I am so happy that i found this blog and this website – its so comforting to know I am not alone in these strugles, and that we have some hope. Vicki – I could have written your comment, I feel like our story is so similar.

    I am 29 and have always been a worrier, in fact my friends would describe me as the stress head ( worrying about public speaking, if i had offended someone, if i had misplaced something important,or hadnt performed something to the best I could). I was always second guessing myself but no obsessive checking or compulsions that i can remember, although now i know the mental compulsions may have been there. Around 3-4 years ago I developed a health obsession where I became obsessed I was dying from a chronic illness, or in particular had MS and i visited every possible health practioner I could find.I had many tests, complained of tingling in my legs and felt that i was having all the symptoms, although i know now i was focusing on this and thats why i felt like i was having symptoms. After finally confessing to family I was able to move on from this, only to be replaced by this awful fear of being a pedophile and intrusive thoughts on this theme.

    I was worried that because I was only 25 perhaps my sexual orientation was changing. I have spent the last 4 years worrying about this. i have also panicked that I am having a nervous breakdown, that I am truly going crazy and will end up in prison or was so unstable i would end up in an institution or hospital.

    The symptoms were random and out of the blue for me, and as such were so terrifying and I thought i was losing my mind. It was only recently that I discovered i am not the only person to have suffered from this and I really am not a terrible person. I ruminate all day long and search for answers. My husband and I have been talking about starting a family and this has caused me intense stress, although I would love to and feel this is ruining the experience for me. I try and conjure up thoughts about being a mum, what scenarios i would be in to see if i like it, am good at it and worse if i am what i fear. I have been scared to seek treatment for fear it will not work or that I will realise that I am really evil and this OCD condition is not me at all. I also get the physical sensations, that i find terrifying and can often be completely unrelated, but really stress me out.

    I have coped in the past by labelling my thoughts, trying to recognse that it is a disease and not me. I use the concept of an OCD monster and i picture it in my head, attributing everything to him trying to torment me. This does assist in detaching myself, but the thoughts are still there, and i have bad days. When i have the days that i dont feel the anxiety, but get the thoughts, then it worries me that im liking them. The fear of being a mum is now starting to destroy me as we should be so excited about this phase of our life but instead i cannot take my mind of the possibility that these thoughts mean something. Have you found that exposure helps as a parent? I plan to get this under control before I take that step, so i am doing all i can to get help. And i also vow to not let this destroy my experience as a mum or make me decide i dont want to do it – it will not win!

    Thanks so much for your blog, i really appreciate it and im sure it has helped a lot of people.

    Linda

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    • Hi Linda,

      Thank you for comments.

      Your symptoms, including how they have “morphed” over time into various new symptoms, are quite common in OCD – especially in the more obsessional variants that are colloquially known as “Pure O”.

      It sounds like you have a good start (i.e., labeling the thoughts in a more accurate manner than your mind initially believes), but I encourage you to seek treatment. A good therapist who specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) could help you learn how to manage these thoughts with less distress and less impact on your life. Take care.

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  • I was wondering if I have OCD, because I obsess about a dream a former college friend had about me where I came in and shot the whole class. I think and fear that it will happen often. This dream was many man years ago but I believe or worry it will come true, that people have premonitions. It is not something I wish to happen but I believe it could be destined to happen and I cant do anything to change it. 🙁

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    • Jessi,

      Thank you for your comment.

      While I cannot provide a diagnosis via blog, the symptoms you describe are consistent with those of OCD – specifically Harm OCD. Keep in mind that one can obsess about anything, even dreams and memories.

      That said, I think it is important that you challenge the idea that your friend’s dream was some sort of “premonition”. You might start by re-framing your friend’s dream as just that – a dream. Every human has all sorts of wild, unrealistic images and ideas that appear in their dreams. Furthermore, I doubt you have any evidence to support the thesis that your friend has special predictive powers. In other words, rather than jump to the conclusion that the dream was meaningful, why not challenge that idea with an alternative idea that is far more likely to be accurate – namely that your friend, like all of us, sometimes has weird dreams.

      Finally, I want to encourage you to read our follow-up to this article, which explores using a therapy technique called Cognitive Restructuring for Harm OCD.

      Take care

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  • I have been practicing mindfulness for about three years and it has helped me weaken my ocd quite a bit. While there are some good books on mindfulness and anxiety, I have not found a book that focuses specifically on using mindfulness to treat ocd. Do you know of any such books? Thanks.

    Mike

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  • Wow, great article. My fiancé has OCD and its different types, he used to have violent thoughts now its homophobia. What can I do to help him ? Also is it possible that he could act upon those bad thoughts?

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    • Hi Victoria,

      Thanks for commenting. Is is great to hear that you are interested in being supportive of your fiancé. Sometimes partners and spouses get freaked out about OCD, especially about Harm OCD. Rest assured that those with Harm OCD are extremely unlikely to act in a violent manner – in fact, they are no more likely to act violently than the general population. My experience with treating clients with Harm OCD is that they are absolutely horrified with their harming thoughts precisely because these thoughts are antithetical to who they are.

      It is quite common for the content of people’s OCD to “morph” over time, so it is not at all surprising that your fiancé’s thoughts have become more focused on sexual orientation, which is a subtype of OCD commonly called HOCD. You can read more about that in our series of four articles on the topic at https://ocdla.com/sexual-orientation-hocd-gay-ocd-treatment-1969/.

      The best things you can do are : 1) get educated about OCD and its various permutations; 2) be supportive; and 3) avoid the trap of over-accommodating his obsessions.

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  • Hello again, I have come back here after a while 🙂 my therapy has gone good, although there are sometimes that it hits me back, no longer as “hocd” though.

    Is it also part of the anxiety and OCD, that now whenever I hear some bad news I get this thought that maybe deep inside me I’m enjoying listening to the bad news? Like for example if I hear about a train crash, I get a fear that somewhere on my unconscious it is something delightful or such for myself? yeah I guess it is..

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    • Hi Matteo,

      It is not unusual for OCD to change over time. So while your OCD symptoms related to sexual orientation have decreased, it sounds like new OCD symptoms have cropped up with a different theme. Again, this is normal and to be expected.

      It is also quite common for people with Harm OCD to obsess about the possibility that they enjoy hearing about other people’s suffering. The basic fear is “what if I am some sort of sick person who actually likes the idea of other people suffering, or likes these terrible thoughts”.

      The best way to manage this new OCD symptom is to use the same tools that have been helping you manage your unwanted HOCD thoughts. It sounds like you have been getting treatment, and I encourage you to discuss your new symptoms with your therapist. Take care.

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  • Hello again,

    Currently my therapist is on holidays, so well.. I think is nice entering here to speak.

    I wanted to know if you have treated people that feel badly about laughing of dark jokes, or maximizing to an extreme the schadenfreude?

    I ask, because lately I have found myself with a vulnerability towards the fact of laughing at dark humor. There’s this thing that make you think that if you laugh at something fictional but tragic, it won’t be any different if one day you witness such situation in real life. What is your advise?

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    • Hi Matteo,

      Your concerns about laughing at dark humor are fairly normal for Harm OCD. Keep in mind that the basic fear for those with Harm OCD is “what if I am a horrible person capable of doing horrible things”. So it makes sense that you would question your character on the basis of finding dark humor funny because it focuses on things that most people consider so unacceptable.

      My advice is to laugh at whatever you find funny, without analyzing why you find it funny. Enjoy your dark sense of humor, which has no bearing on real life.

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  • Hey again!

    I’ve been feeling much better, the thoughts of other things dont cause me fear any longer. Funnily, there’s something new: distrust in memory, whether if I heard what I think I heard some hours ago and such. I’m paying not much attention to it, as to not make it increase. Tell me, have you heard of such cases?

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    • Hi Matteo,

      Doubting one’s memory is extremely common in OCD. So common that the disorder is sometimes called “the doubting disease”. I encourage you to pay no attention to the doubt – when you have doubt about your memory, live with the doubt. Analyzing the doubt will not make it any clearer to you.

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  • Hey, I’m sorry if I’m annoying you with the multiple messages.

    Since the end of last week I have had a strong flu, which by some reason has led me to have a strong flare up, must be the lack of strenght to be mindfull.

    Anyway… This morning I read somewhere online the case of a man that under LSD had cut the head of his cat. At first I thought “I hope this doesn’t keep in my mind” well.. for most of the day nothing happened, but during the evening while I was eating in the kitchen along my mother, and two cats, the image of choping his head came to me. I wasn’t mindful and didn’t realize at which I point I started contemplating the content of the thought. Even fearing that I would go berserk, grab my cat, and cut his head off with a knife.

    The thought didn’t go for about an hour, and I was in a peak of anxiety. So I decided to do an exposure exercise by myself. I grabbed my cat with one hand, and on the other took the knife. Just contemplating what feelings arised. Of course, no desire of harming my cat at all arised. I thought this had been a success and went to my room as if nothing had happened. But once here, my mind started analyzing “you see Matteo, you have already done an exercise of this kind, you were actually holding a knife on one hand with your cat on the other, next time you’ll definitely go berserk and stab your cat” the thought was trying to tell me that the exposure wasn’t really proving that I love my cat, but instead that I have lost my mind, and soon could do him harm :/ That by doing an exposure exercise, I was being some kind of madman.

    What do you think of this? Was my exposure exercise effective? or what backfired?

    Second thing: I read somewhere else that most of the pain and obsession appears because of the urge of wanting to control, to know exactly I would NEVER harm anyone. But that this is impossible, and so I should say sincerely to myself, “well I don’t feel like doing so, I can’t speak for the future” Do you think this actually brings freedom? Because I’m fearful that by saying this, I’m admitting that maybe I could do it in the future.

    I hope to not have annoyed you! God bless your webpage, it has helped me lots. Unfortunately my therapist has gone to live elsewhere and so our therapy is done. I started practicing meditation two weeks ago which is fantastic, however sometimes, and specially now with this flu I feel with a lot of anxiety, that’s why I come here.

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    • Matteo,

      Thank you for your comments.

      Your reaction to your exposure with your cat was quite typical. When people with OCD do exposures to unwanted thoughts, their brains often respond with new thoughts such as “see, you are capable of…”. Also, it is important to remember that OCD is not going to be vanquished with one exposure – it is going to repeatedly look for any way it can to try to convince you that you are a monster.

      As for your second question, the desire for absolute certainty is at the very core of OCD. And as you correctly point out, absolute certainty is impossible because we cannot predict the future. For all I know, I may go berserk today and kill someone – or 100 people! Based on my experience, I have no reason to actually believe that will happen, but I cannot provide you, myself, or anyone else with absolute certainty that I will not kill someone today.

      You are afraid that by allowing your unwanted thoughts to exist, that you would somehow be admitting that you could be a killer in the future. But we all could be killers in the future. Real freedom comes from allowing your unwanted thoughts to exist without trying control them, and without paying so much attention to them. They are just thoughts, and everybody has all sorts of weird thoughts that are not based on our true character and intentions.

      I encourage you to discuss these issues with the therapist you mentioned in a previous comment. If that therapist is not an OCD specialist, then it would be best to find one who is.

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  • I mean, not like I listen voices of someone speaking to me. Simply, I’m confused on how to define a thought. In this case, it was merely the idea of seeing what a girl would think of me. So what I did, was simply “to think what she would think of me” is this common?

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    • Matteo,

      Trying to discern the difference between a “thought” and an “idea” is a compulsion. All of the issues you write about appear to be OCD. Again, I encourage you to discuss these issues with your therapist.

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  • Hello,

    I have also found this page very interesting and at times quite reassuring, so thank you for this! I suspect that my OCD also began due to a period where I was obsessed about my health and being ill, along with always being an anxious individual anyway e.g. worrying about people, what others think, am I good enough? Etc.

    I am currently seeing a therapist however there are many things that I forget about and should write down… But I feel that the doubting and questioning myself side of things is really manifesting itself.
    I wondered whether anyone else/is it normal for people to wonder whether they would feel guilty or not if they were to do something?
    I have always been a very caring and compassionate person, and have ALWAYS had a good sense of right from wrong etc. however I feel somewhat emotionless at the moment compared to my normal self – and this scares me!

    Also I sometimes just say things in my head and almost argue with myself for example I have sometimes thought – I want to do it – but then I’m like – no you don’t… Is this normal?! Sometimes I have thought what if the only way to get rid of these thoughts would be to just do it – although I know I wouldn’t want to.

    I’m only 21 and am worried about this affecting my life 🙁

    I would really appreciate it if anyone could help me and let me know what they think.

    Thank you x

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    • Hi NJ,

      Thanks for your comments.

      The symptoms you report are quite normal for OCD, and specifically suggest Harm OCD. For example, you mention a history of worrying about people, worrying about what people might think of you, and wondering if you are “good enough”. All of these are quite common thoughts for most people, and are often magnified for those with Harm OCD. Also, your doubting and questioning of yourself regarding whether you would feel guilty if you did something improper is an extremely common experience for those with Harm OCD, as is your concern about not being emotional enough in response to certain thoughts. Finally, you mention the internal arguments you have with yourself about whether you actually want to do something improper, which is very typical of Harm OCD.

      Let me also note that you wrote about your thought that perhaps the only way to get rid of these unwanted thoughts is to do the very thing you fear. First, that wouldn’t work. If you were to do the thing you fear, you would almost certainly be filled with a tremendous amount of guilt, and then you would obsess about the fact that you actually did it.

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  • I have recently tried to just accept the thought and not respond to them. While I suppose the thoughts now are not as frequent I am now bothered because the thoughts don’t bother me. I know that may not make to much sense but I feel like im not having enough anxiety over the thought and therefore may prove that I am really evil. Is this normal for harm ocd? I want to get better so badly I hate these thoughts. I suppose I am also scared that even if I don’t care about the thoughts they will just stay there anyway, and then it would just prove that I am a sociopath

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    • Hi Rachael,

      The phenomenon to which you are referring is called a “backdoor spike”. In short, a back door spike is when a person with OCD starts to see a reduction in their anxiety, and then starts to obsess that the reduction of anxiety means that they really are going to do the thing they fear they will do. It is an extremely common occurrence in Harm OCD and for those with sexual obsessions such as HOCD. It doesn’t indicate that you are evil or a sociaopath – it indicates that you have OCD.

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  • Hiya, is it normal to have groinal responses to harm thoughts?? I hate it but a lot of the time I will get a strong reaction down there to the thoughts and it scares me 🙁 also I have suffered with the harm thoughts for around 3 months now and today felt like I made a break through and haven’t felt as anxious and felt more confident in myself, but I have been feeling anious around my cat so I tested myself and put my hand around his neck to see how I’d feel I didn’t feel anxious but felt like I could hurt him and got a groinal response 🙁 I didn’t feel really anxious but imediatly started questioning myself and now I’m scared I will act on my thoughts please help 🙁

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    • Sam,

      Thank you for your comments.

      It is normal to have feelings in one’s groin on a regular basis. The only reason you are noticing these groinal feelings when you have certain thoughts is that you are looking for them. If I asked you to look at a blank piece of paper and to then very closely monitor your groin, you would also likely report feeling something. Your groin doesn’t merit so much attention, and if you were to stop paying so much attention to it, you would likely report fewer feelings.

      Also, when you conduct “tests” such as you did with your cat, you are doing a compulsion. I strongly encourage you to immediately stop checking your groin and to stop conducting tests that only make your OCD worse.

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  • Hey everyone, im a fellow sufferer. I took confidential test and im on the high scale. I do psychodynamic therapy but we dont focus on the symptom with my therapist that much, so not to reinforce it. I will ask him again to put into practice behavioral techniques. Still i have terrible thoughts and a particular obsession at the moment. I ve put so much effort into this not to give in to mentual compulsions and rituals. My OCD has transformed pretty much in all forms from gay ocd to harm ocd, plus in seeking out a perfect answer for detail matters. While i was in army, i was asked to vaccinate soldiers. Accidentally i vaccinated one with probably used injection from a previous soldier. An event I forgot. Now my worst fear is that this guy would have been infected with AIDS or whatever. Its killing me and Im on my limits right now. Not to mention that Im a therapist and it takes so much energy from me, makes me feel miserable. God, i wanted to share this with you. (i dont look for a reassurance here, just you to empathise with me).

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    • Hi George,

      Thanks for commenting. It is extremely common for OCD to morph from one obsession to another (i.e., to switch from gay obsessions to harm obsessions to whatever). I encourage you to stop looking for “perfect answers”, and accept that these thoughts are just OCD thoughts.

      Also, keep in mind that you have absolutely no evidence that you infected your fellow soldier. Just because you thought it doesn’t mean it has any basis in fact. And by the way, that same injection may have saved his life due to the vaccination!

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  • Hi,
    First of all i want to apolologize for my bad english and poor choice of words, because english isn’t my native language, as i am from belgium.

    When i was about 10 years old, I think i had a form of OCD.
    It was like there was a voice in my head ( but it was really me ) saying that i had to do certain things or something would happen to my family. Turning lights on and off, always checking things. Or when there was a sound i needed to touch the back of my bed.

    Then when i was 12 i had e peeing obsession. ( or i think it was ). Right before bed i went to the toilet. But i bed i immediately had to think about peeing again, so that gave me the feeling that i needed to go again. So i would go for 5 times. But when i was at the toilet, i coudn’t go anymore.

    With all this i already knew i wasn’t normal like the other kids. I was silent, always turned in myself. like there was a mental war going on in my self.

    Then this passed.
    But in highschool i developped a sort of anxiety. I stood up being nervous, always going to the toilet. And in class, i couldn’t pay any attention because of the nervous feelings and sitting there fighting against the feeling of running to the toilet and taking a dump because of the tensions.
    I also had rapid heartbeating, sweating, tired,…

    Then when i went to university and i always had a fear for the big rooms with 500 people. It was like i was going to yell and lose control. I always sat at the exit.
    Because of this i couldnt pay attention. I failed and stopped.

    Then a year later i develloped nystagmus.
    I see things “flikkering” and moving double.
    they don’t know what causes this and i have been struggeling with this for seven years.
    I even stopped working now.

    But now for about 3 years i have these “thoughts” and images of hurting my mom.
    When i saw a knife, i saw an image.
    but know i have this with every possible object.
    When i see or even think about a belt, i see it wrapped around a neck. Or when i’m at the tables, i see me smashing a yar of mayonaise against a head.
    Also whes she is speaking to me it is like i am always yelling inside my head.
    when she is telling me something, i try to listen, but automatically thoughts like “shut up” “die” pop in my head.
    Then i start to sweat and feel weird.
    My mom always supported me and helped me and i want to give her the world, but now i feel all of this.
    I’m starting to avoid conversations.
    But even when she is not near, it is like it is also going “on” in my head.
    A few months ago i had this fear of losing my mother and that i would be lost and now i have these exact opposite thougts.
    Then after all these years you start to think that these thoughts are things you really want.
    When i hear her comming to my room i have such a feeling like o no, here she comes, it will happen. But i can’t break this feeling.
    It can’t be the solution to just never see her again.
    Because sometimes you think that is the solution.
    My parent say that maybe i should move out to make it stop.
    But isn’t that lettting the thoughts win??
    I don’t want her to die and later think back that always having these thoughts were my relationship with my mother.

    Kind regards

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    • Hi Ben,

      Thank you for your comments.

      These types of thoughts are extremely common for people suffering with Harm OCD. Unfortunately, the thoughts experienced in Harm OCD often focus on those who matter the most – parents, children, spouses, etc.

      Moving out and never seeing your mother again would be just about the worst possible response to these thoughts. First, you would lose a relationship with your mother. Second, it would almost certainly not succeed in eliminating these thoughts. And third, if you did manage to see a reduction in these thoughts, they would likely change into harm thoughts about someone else.

      Avoidance is one of the four main ways that people try to manage unwanted thoughts, and it is almost guaranteed to backfire. In other words, avoiding your mom would make things worse, not better.

      My recommendation is simple – you need to seek treatment with a psychotherapist who specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for OCD. If you would like to discuss online treatment options with one of the therapists at our center, please contact us via our website at https://ocdla.com/.

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  • hi,

    Thank you for responding.

    I think that i have a mixture of all the OCDtypes.
    Like the fear in the aula’s at university, fear in class.
    Most of them are a result of a fear of losing control.
    I also have a fear of flying. Not the flying itself. Because when i picture flying alone in an empty plane, there wouldn’t be a problem.
    But when there are people, everything changes.
    Its like i’m yelling inside. Fear of losing control. Fear of yelling out loud. And then you are looking at the Door and stuff. Like you are going to open it.
    I’ve read that this is also a type of OCD. Fear of losing control.

    I even had a period of time at my work, when i was closing the register and was working with the money. There always was a thought like “take it”

    It is also like my mind is never at ease.
    always thinking and talking to myself in my mind.
    always aware of my breathing and hartbeat.
    everytime i breathe, its is as I am always saying “in…. and out” “in…. and out”

    Or when i am in the bathroom with the heater on, its like i can’t get loose of the noise. Its like i am always repeating the noise in my head

    somethimes i don’t know if something is normal or ocd.

    kind regards

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    • Hi Ben,

      The human brain is very creative. But that doesn’t mean that the thoughts our brains generate are particularly important. In fact, the great majority of things we think about are totally unimportant. So here are the thoughts you listed:

      Thoughts of losing control
      Thoughts of losing control on a plane
      Thoughts of losing control on a plane and opening the door
      Thoughts of taking the money from the cash register at work
      Thoughts about your breathing
      Thoughts about your heartbeat
      Thoughts about the noise that the heater makes

      These all have one thing in common…they are just thoughts.

      Your goal is to recognize and accept that your brain produces a lot of unimportant stuff. And to then pay no excess attention to it (with the full knowledge that it will continue to create unimportant stuff).

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  • Hi

    I am afraid that i will ruin our friends wedding,that i will say or do something craizy and everyone will think i am craizy….All this started on my own wedding when i had this kind of impulses .i am afraid of becoming craizy and do all kind of craizy things..and then my life will be ruined,even my husband will look at me with fear…i know it is ridiculous, but it feel anxiety and i suffer a lot…can i call this craizy ocd?…

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    • Hi Lory,

      This all sounds like OCD. We frequently treat people who obsess about the possibility of saying or doing things that are uncharacteristic of them.

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  • Hi Tom,

    First, I want to thank you for this wonderful blog; it has been helpful and comforting to me over the past several months since I found it.

    In May of 2014 I read a distressing news story about a woman named Carol Coronado that killed her 3 daughter’s with a knife that may have done it due to post partum psychosis. When I read that story I have been plagued by horrible thoughts that if this can happen to a previously “normal” and loving mother, than can I have this happen to me? I have two boys (8 and 2) that are my world. I love them more than life itself and would do anything for them, gladly give my life for them if I had to. Yet, I am constantly plagued by horrible thoughts that I really want to strangle them and kill them. I have terrible bad fears of becoming like Carol Coronado or Andrea Yates. The thought of this drives me into panic mode and it is hard for me to be around my sons, especially when my husband is at work. I force myself to be around them and try my best to not avoid them as I know this can make the thoughts more powerful. I can now be around them, but the thoughts are still there and they scare me. I am currently on 40mg/day of an SSRI called Citalopram that my GP prescribed me. I told her I have bad anxiety, I couldn’t bring myself to tell her that I do have anxiety (have had it for years and it runs in my family), but I also have these intrusive harm thoughts. Any way, the pills do seem to work on my panic attacks but the thoughts are still there. Some days I feel really good and can brush the thoughts off, but some days they play over and over again in my head and make me very depressed and steal my happiness from me. I feel like I cannot enjoy my children because there is a nagging thought in my head that tells me that I cannot enjoy them because one day I will kill them and they will not live into old age.

    I have a wonderful husband, the two greatest boys ever, a brand new beautiful house that my husband and I are currently having built, we are all healthy; I have everything to be happy about but these thoughts ever since May are stealing my joy in my life from me.

    Do you have any advise for me and what I should do? Does this sound like Harm OCD, or do you think it is something deeper? I have so much fear that normal mothers raise their children and then just “snap” one day and kill them; I am so afraid of this happening to me. I really want a 3rd child, but I am afraid that if I do have another one that child can cause me to “snap” too, like Andrea Yates, end up with post partum psychosis, and I do not want to put anyone through that; especially an innocent child. Does it sound like I would be too mentally unstable to have another child at this time? I also do not want to have another one if I am going to be constantly afraid of hurting 3 children instead of 2.

    Please help me, I really look forward to any advise that you can give me…I wish I could go back to May and not have read that story about that mother. My life was normal before then-except for always having anxiety for years-but at least I didn’t have these harm thoughts then, especially about something so precious as my children. 🙁

    Thank you so much.

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    • Hi Melissa,

      Everything you write sounds like OCD to me. The fear that one will “snap’ and kill their loved ones is an extremely common obsession in Harm OCD. We have had numerous clients who have specifically referred to Andrea Yates and other moms who killed their children. Nothing you write even remotely suggests that you are anything like her.

      My suggestion is simple – get into treatment with a therapist who specializes in treating OCD with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which has consistently been found by research to be the most effective treatment for OCD.

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  • Hello

    I am 20 almost 21 and I have had these types of thoughts since I was about 9 or 10. I noticed that they began happening after my uncle died unexpectedly out of nowhere and it’s like ever since then I’ve had fears about death and killing. Ive noticed that the thoughts come and go. Sometimes they will be bad for a while and then not as bad for a while. Often I try to tell myself I wouldn’t do that and try to get the thoughts out of my mind. I have told my mom about my worries and she tells me I’m not crazy and that I wouldn’t do that. I have the most “killing fear” about her and it upsets me and gives me panic attacks. I hate that I have these thoughts and it’s very frustrating for me. I’m not sure how to get rid of them. Reading these comments and the article did help though. I have been trying to do as you said and just let the thoughts pass and move on. I don’t want to be worrying my whole life. I’m young and I don’t want to waste my life. I have always been extremely caring about others and animals. At one point I wanted to be a vet but then realized I didn’t think I could because putting down animals would be too hard for me…. Yet my mind keeps thinking these terrible thoughts that make me keep second guessing myself. It makes me feel like I’m crazy and maybe I do want to do something like that and then I just worry myself sick. Reading these made me think I have harm OCD but then another part of me is like “or you’re just insane”

    I really would like to think I’m not crazy or psychotic but I keep wondering if I am because of these thoughts I put in my head.

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    • Hi Madi,

      I cannot provide a diagnosis via a blog comment, but I can say that nothing you write suggests you are psychotic. In fact, the unwanted thoughts you have about causing harm are the primary symptom of Harm OCD. And the fact that these thoughts are so upsetting to you is evidence that you are not likely to act on them.

      Keep in mind that the goal is not to “get rid of them”, but rather to accept their presence with equanimity. Nobody can control what thoughts pop into their head, and trying to get rid of your unwanted thoughts will likely make them worse. Accept their presence, but don’t assume that they mean anything. They are just weird thoughts that need no explanation.

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  • Hey,
    I’ve been having harmful thoughts since the summer before i was diagnosed type 1 diabetic at the age of 12, now at age 34 these thoughts come and go. I have missed alot of my life because of these thoughts of hurting myself and others for no reason. These thoughts have put me into depression more than once. I finally went to a psychologist and they want to do tests for adhd. I am not a dr or anything but i’ve lived with this for 22 years and i’m simply tired of it. Any helping info would make my day.

    thanks
    Brian

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    • Hi Brian,

      Some people speculate about a connection or overlap between OCD and ADHD. That said, your concerns about unwanted harm thoughts sound like OCD, and do not sound anything like ADHD. Unfortunately, many mental health care providers are pretty clueless about OCD, so it’s quite possible that your psychologist doesn’t really understand your OCD thoughts.

      Also, I strongly encourage you to be very skeptical of any testing for ADHD that involves brain scans, etc. The proper diagnosis of both OCD and ADHD is based on in-depth clinical interviews, along with some simple questionnaires. There are a number of clinics promoting the use of expensive (and useless) brain scans for the diagnosis of OCD and ADHD.

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  • Hi there…thanks for the article. I just have a question. What if someone actually feels violent urges? Feels like doing all that stuff and realises that it is bad and then gets anxious that he might loose control. Is it still ocd? Could harm ocd have something to do with suppressed aggression that expresses itself in this bizarre ways?

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    • Hi Bibi,

      While I cannot provide a diagnosis on the basis of a blog comment, I can say that what you are describing sounds like Harm OCD to me. The fear of suddenly losing control and acting violently is an extremely common symptom in Harm OCD.

      There is no real reason to try to differentiate between a “thought” or a “feeling” or an “urge”. The bottom line is that these internal experiences are unwanted by you, which suggests Harm OCD rather than actual desire to act violently. There is no evidence that you actually want to act in a harmful manner (in fact, you suggest just the opposite), and actions are the real measure of our character.

      I also wouldn’t spend much time trying to analyze if your thoughts are a sign of suppressed aggression. You are having unwanted thoughts/feelings/urges, and you don’t like these experiences, and don’t really want to act on them. Analyzing these internal experiences in an effort to see if you have some secret hidden aggressive impulses would just be a compulsion.

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  • Hi Tom! Thank you very much for your reply. It is so reassuring to know that someone is willing to help out there…You are doing a great job. Thank you so much.

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  • Hi Tom,
    The article is very inciteful, thankyou for posting it.
    I have been searching the Internet to try and find someone with the same kind of thing as me but I can’t and it’s making me question if I have OCD as I am starting to think that maybe I have Tourette’s. For years I have had the same fear, that I am saying the same horrible thing about my family, something that is not true but could get them in to trouble. I am convinced that I am saying it/ shouting it constantly and am no longer leaving the house in case I really am saying it. I have stopped asking people and am trying not to look at people’s reactions as I know this will only help short term. I guess what I want to know is, is it possible for me to be saying these horrible things even though I don’t want to? The reason I am unsure as to wether it is OCD is because I am not having a thought and then worring I want to do it, I am worried I am saying it!
    Anything would be helpful!
    Thank you
    j

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    • Hi J.,

      Thanks for your comment. The fear of saying horrible, mean-spirited things is a common them in OCD. But unless you are actually saying these types of things repeatedly, it is almost certain that you do not have Tourette’s.

      Not leaving the house is a compulsion that will solve your anxiety in the short term, but which will make things markedly worse for you in the long term. Simply put, avoiding your fear by not leaving the house will lead to a greatly diminished life in which your OCD controls you. I strongly encourage you to seek out treatment with a therapist who specializes in treating Harm OCD.

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  • Hi everyone,
    First of all, this is my first post and I am really grateful to you all for reading this.
    I am 30 years old and have struggled with OCD for many years.
    For the past year and a half, I have been struggling with a fear that I touched a girl that I used to babysit in a sexual way (I would have been around 15 or so). I don’t have a memory of doing this but I have a nagging fear that it may have happened. I babysat three kids and for some reason, I am terrified that I did something terrible to the girl and then forgot it.

    I tracked her down and added her to facebook and we have talked a few times. She is a little distant but friendly enough. My psychologist says she is likely not overly friendly because it is odd to hear from someone from so long ago who she did not know very well.
    This is not the first thought like this that I have had…I had a fear a few years ago where I feared I hurt a girl in the same way, in grade 3 outside at recess.
    I have seen a therapist, psychologist and psychiatrist and even a hypnotherapist. They all say that this is part of OCD and that it definitely did not happen. I have a hard time believing them and suffer from fear and doubt.
    xo

    Reply
    • Hi Tara,

      Fears of acting sexually inappropriately with children are quite common in OCD, and are sometimes described as Pedophilia OCD, or POCD. Keep in mind that all of these variants of are just OCD, and there is no significant difference between Harm OCD and POCD, other than the specific content of the thoughts.

      Everything you write here suggests POCD. You even note that you have no memory of being inappropriate with her.

      Tracking the girl down on Facebook and adding her as a Facebook friend sound very much like compulsive attempts to get relief from your anxiety related to these thoughts. Obviously this strategy has not worked, and it never will. In fact it is likely making your OCD worse.

      A more effective approach would be to un-friend her on Facebook, and make no further efforts to track her or communicate with her in any way.

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  • Hi,

    I have feelings of harming some one after seeing an incident of hurting of a person by another person by gun.this incident took place three week ago and i am thoughts of hurting some one from that day.i have thoughts of hurting my friends and losing them.i have thoughts of violent behaviour.
    Is this merely thoughts or some thing else plz guide me??.previously i have thoughts about religious issues which were not so disturbing as far as these thoughts about harming someone are concerned.I have thought of harming my parents,siblings and relatives and i also read in a professional college i have thoughts of harming teachers or superintendent or other so that i may get expelled from college.i also thought of vomiting and diarrhea a week before exam that these diarrhea and vomiting can occur during but these are just feeling.these are also ocd plz tell me.

    Also tell me that i have tinnitis from childhood which is mild now. Is that tinnitis has some relation with OCD or it is an individual disease.

    Reply
    • Hi Anu,

      Thanks for commenting.

      I can’t provide a diagnosis via this blog, but I can say that your symptoms sound very much like OCD. Keep in mind that OCD often arises in response to stress, and seeing a gun crime committed sounds like a very stressful, traumatizing event. This, along with your past experience with unwanted obsessions about religious issues, leads me to believe that you would be well served by seeking treatment with a therapist who specializes in treating OCD with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

      As for Tinnitus, I know of no known connection of this condition with OCD.

      Take care.

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  • Hello-
    Recently went through some stressful life events that triggered harm OCD. Definitely having a hard time, but making slow progress. I recently found out that I have primary hyperthyroid disease – do you know any knowledge of how this could be triggering a more anxious response in me?
    Also, I know this sounds almost pathetic, but, I was just wondering – is it possible to live a happy and fulfilled life with successful therapy and treatment? I feel hopeless at times.

    Reply
    • Hi Lauren,

      I have read articles that suggest many people with thyroid issues have elevated anxiety related to this problem. I encourage you to discuss this matter with your physician.

      And yes, many people with OCD have happy, fulfilling lives.

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  • I have a 17 year old son with OCD / harm OCD – He is reluctant to enter therapy. He says he doesn’t want to have the thoughts ‘/ images made the center of attention (exposure) or talked about. Also he wants to know if “the thoughts / images are “less” with OCD therapy” Less intense? or less frequent?

    How do I advise him?

    thanks

    Reply
    • John Henry,

      In order to effectively treat OCD, one must be willing to face it head-on. Unfortunately, some people are so terrified of their obsessions that they are unwilling to face them. This is particularly problematic with teens – they often have enough insight to recognize they have OCD and want it to go away, but have not yet reached the point of truly accepting that they will need to take active steps to address it.

      I encourage you to do two things. First, address the issue directly with your son in an effort to encourage him to get invested in his own recovery. And second, be patient as he comes to terms with the fact that OCD will not magically go away by itself. The bottom line is that he needs to be ready for treatment, and there is no fixed timetable for when that will happen. He will be ready when he is ready.

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  • Hi there i have been on abit of a frighting path for the past six weeks,
    I started getting these unwanted thoughts about 20 years ago,after i stop doing drugs, and the thought kill him kept on , and on in my head,i had finisinded with my partner at that time, so i just thought it was towards him.
    So off and on during my life it use to pop up, but didn’t let them borther me never got help, just coped by myself untill a few weeks ago.
    I had my boy finley 5 years ago love him dearly, were like the best of mates,
    I got really ill with sick bug so low i was getting abit down, then a week after i started getting these thoughts back but this time felt like it was towards my son, which was frightening and horrible i was very anixious , It got so bad my mum took me to A and E , i wasn’t eating nothing, i hated the fact that i coulded be round my son that i loved dearly i would never hurt him, so the Mentle health team saw me, i told me it was a form of OCD, so I was getting the home help team come and see me, then will be CBT in july…
    I am getting better each week, my mum has my boy living with her at the moment, but just want every thing to be the way it was.

    Reply
    • Emma,

      Seeing as you have past experience with Harm OCD, I am not at all surprised that you are now once again experiencing Harm OCD. That said, there is no substantive difference between harming obsessions focused on your partner and harming obsessions focused on your son.

      Regardless of the person that you harming obsessions focus on, the best response is to accept that your brain produces these thoughts, that they are not particularly meaningful, and to make no effort to understand them or get rid of them. They are just thoughts.

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  • I almost started crying reading this and the comments, a few months ago one of my friends had a schizophrenic breakdown and got committed after attempting suicide, at first I thought what if I could do that, what makes me different, could i lose my mind also?

    It was fairly mild for the period they were in hospital and I pushed it out of my mind, chalked it up to stress, then last week I saw a video on YouTube about suicide and completely freaked out, again I managed to relax each time the thoughts came but again they came back harder and I freaked out again now been fighting it the past few days, I manage to calm myself sometimes and feel better but of course it comes back again when I think what if, what if, what if, I know they are just thoughts but still it is very distressing.

    So happy I’m not the only one, I don’t usually cry but I did the past days because the thoughts were so upsetting especially when I confided to my wife.

    Reply
    • John,

      I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. Unfortunately, the fear of having Schizophrenia is a fairly common obsession in OCD. That said, you may not have OCD, as your recent concerns sound like a fairly predictable response to your friend’s Schizophrenia. After all, I can see why this thought would come to you in the wake of your friend’s struggle.

      Unless you have a history of OCD, there is no reason to automatically assume that this particular thought will be problematic for you in the long-term. If your fear of developing Schizophrenia does not dissipate over a short period of time, I encourage you to seek the counsel of a therapist who specializes in the treatment of OCD.

      Reply
  • Hi,
    my harm OCD started about 4 – 5 months ago. One day I was reading an article about sleepwalking and learned that there were a few cases in the past where people did terrible things while on their nocturnal strolls and I started being afraid of doing similar things (the fact that I would not have any control over it was even more terrifying). This caused me some trouble and a few sleepless nights, but I eventually got over it. Then the fear of harm became somewhat more representative of my actual harm ocd when I started being afraid of hurting my cats (one of them was really sick a while ago and it caused my A LOT of worries). On one hand I was having terrifying mental images, and on the other I was afraid that I could hurt them just because I can. Then the fear just kept shifting between all the members of my family I care about (especially my mother, as I often worry about her health). However it’s not the mental images that I’m most afraid of, but thoughts like “when I get home, I’ll do this and this” or “tonight I’ll do this and that”, because this sounds like a “criminal plotting” something. It makes me very anxious.
    I’m also afraid of having schizophrenia.

    Reply
    • Adrian,

      A few thoughts…

      This all sounds like classic Harm OCD.

      There is no fundamental difference between unwanted “thoughts” and unwanted “images”, and I encourage you not to spend any time or energy focusing on your fear that thoughts are (allegedly) more indicative of plotting actual harm.

      Likewise, there is no significant difference between obsessing about thoughts/images of causing harm while sleeping vs. thoughts/images of causing harm while awake.

      Obsessive fear of having or developing Schizophrenia is quite common in OCD.

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  • I have anxiety as well as panic disorders. but a couple of years ago, in my early twenties I experienced harm OCD. I didn’t realize then what it was, and since I don’t live in a first world country, and my compulsions were mostly mental (though I have had phases when they become physical, excessive washing, etc) it was hard to find a therapist that actually knew what was going on. I was diagnosed time and time again with GAD, clinical depression, etc. After many failed attempts, and all faith lost in mental health professionals I found one that finally had an answer to my questions. But for a long time I battled with debilitating fear of harming my loved ones, myself, or having schizophrenia. There’s one thing that bugs me still though. I have on and off periods when I get this nasty sleep paralysis nearly every night. And it’s usually preceded by hypnagogic hallucinations right as I am falling sleep. They are auditory and they’re not harmful in content, it’s just as if I was listening to a conversation from earlier that day, or someone calling my name. But they freak me out terribly because I am terrified of being insane, going crazy. Are these related to the ocd or anxiety? help

    Reply
    • Ann,

      Fear of having Schizophrenia and a fear of harming one’s self or others are quite common obsessions in OCD. Unfortunately, finding a qualified therapist can be very difficult. Even in the US, outside of major cities, most therapists are clueless about the complexities of OCD.

      I know of no research connecting sleep paralysis and hypnagogic hallucinations to OCD. That said, I think it quite reasonable to conclude that one could have OCD and these issues.

      Your OCD would best be treated by a therapist who specializes in treating OCD with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and your sleep issues should be assessed by a physician who specializes in sleep disorders.

      Reply
  • Hi,

    I’ve been struggling with Harm OCD for the past few months. I’ve began to feel much better in recent weeks but have, recently, stumbled across a couple of news articles about terrible crimes committed by people with OCD (these articles did not mention what form of OCD). This has really set me back, in terms of recovery. Is there any reassurance you can offer about this?

    Thanks:)

    Reply
    • Hi Jodie,

      I too have read articles about people who allegedly have OCD committing horrible crimes. Keep in mind that the media does not “know” that these people have OCD, and often there has simply been an allegation made that the person has OCD. In fact, the media does a horrible job of presenting accurate information about this disorder.

      Furthermore, we have written three articles about court cases in which the claim of having OCD was used by criminal defendants and their attorneys in an effort to impact the findings of the court and/or to reduce or eliminate prison sentences. You can read these three articles starting at https://ocdla.com/ocd-law-1-1961/. I think you will find that these articles shed light on the misuse of the term “OCD” by criminals.

      The bottom line is that having Harm OCD thoughts does not pre-dispose one to committing crime. In fact, just the opposite is true – people with OCD are horrified by their unwanted thoughts, and are often hyper-moral. That said, it is quite possible that one could have OCD and also cause harm to people. But that does not mean that OCD was the cause of the crime.

      Reply
    • Aishwarya,

      Having never conducted an assessment of you and your symptoms, there is no way for me to provide you a prognosis for your recovery. I can however say that HOCD and all variants of OCD are generally considered chronic conditions.

      Without treatment, there is a strong chance that you will never see a significant reduction in your symptoms. I strongly encourage you to seek treatment with a therapist who specializes in treating OCD rather than hoping for your symptoms to magically disappear.

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  • Having recently discovered i have Harm OCD, i’ve noticed one of my compulsions is googling articles and stories to get relief. I also ruminate and find myself questioning if im a bad person, if im evil, or if im going crazy. I know it’s all normal for OCD. I’m seeing a therapist now for anxiety, panic disorder, and possible PMDD, but I can’t open up about this issue because I’m afraid she won’t understand or that I’ll be put in a mental ward. I do a lot of self talk. I’ll tell myself its just OCD, that I’m going to fight it to the bitter end and it’s not going to win, that I know that I’m a good person and that im loving and caring. The OCD plays tricks though and will create the “no you’re not going to get better” thoughts. I’ve heard ERP works very well for OCD. This only started a month or 2 ago, literally out of the blue, and I’ve seriously had enough 🙁

    Reply
    • Missy,

      Googling for info about OCD is a common OCD compulsion. Frankly, you probably found all you needed to know to self-diagnose your Harm OCD in about 15 minutes. Anything after that is a compulsive waste of time that actually worsens your Harm OCD.

      Yes, ERP works very well for all forms of OCD. Every OCD expert on the planet would tell you that ERP is the key to effective recovery from OCD. That said, unless your current therapist has knowledge of, experience with, and training in ERP for OCD, she likely will be grossly ill-equipped to treat your OCD. I encourage you to find treatment with a treatment provider who specializes in treatment for OCD.

      Reply
  • I experienced harm OCD when my wife suffered post-partum psychosis after the birth of our first child. My wife felt the information she was receiving from a therapist would help me as well. I went to the therapist who encouraged me to be “open” about my various thoughts. One thought occurred in which I saw myself in prison for some kind of crime that might have involved my wife. I understood this at the time as a normal person might — that is, as a goofy expression of my anger at the immense difficulties we were experiencing as first time parents. No big deal. It wasn’t even an image of violence. But when I shared it with the therapist, she freaked out and insisted I sign a “contract” insuring I would contact her if a similar thought ever came to me again. I replied that I couldn’t do that. If I sign something that says I won’t have a certain thought, I am almost certain to have that thought again. Such a contract is self-defeating. She didn’t see it that way. Then, in the car on the way home, some part of me realized, “Wait. You don’t need the contract. You aren’t supposed to have those thoughts. You know that now. Therefore, here they come.” Hello Harm OCD.

    Reply
    • Lint,

      Three thoughts come to mind:

      1) The therapist is an idiot. Her over-reaction is evidence that she knows absolutely nothing about OCD.

      2) You are correct in noting that attempting to control a thought so that it doesn’t appear is an excellent way of ensuring the exact opposite.

      3) Who says you aren’t supposed to have certain thoughts? You are allowed to have any thought at all. Thoughts are just thoughts, and I assure yo that EVERYONE has had thoughts of causing harm.

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  • I experience a few different forms of OCD. Harm OCD always seems to be worse during a certain time of year. Making me hate what used to be my favorite seasons (fall & winter). My real fear is that I don’t have OCD at all.. when I have harm thoughts they can last for weeks and be so severe that my body actually freezes and feels like I am not in control. I don’t want to hurt anybody, but what if these are urges and not just intrusive thoughts? How is harm ocd different than being a psychopath? Is it possible that my harm OCD will be so bad it will make me psychotic? I am a hair dresser and I’m struggling to even function at work. I feel like harm OCD has consumed my life at this point.

    Reply
    • Angela,

      Harm OCD is different from being a psychopath in that psychopaths do not obsess about about how horrible it would be to hurt people. They are fine with hurting people. They don’t post comments on OCD blogs in which they note how miserable their thoughts make them feel. Again, they are fine with these thoughts.

      I encourage you to read our article “Doubt, Denial and OCD”, which addresses the obsession “What if I don’t really have OCD, and I am just in denial.

      Reply
  • I definitely have had harm obsessions for the past few years now and have a couple questions. I want some assistance differentiating between some things. The biggest thought is that I’ll stab myself with the knife I use to cut my food and when I’m around my friend, that I’ll harm him with the knife too. I’ve noticed that my obsessions come less when I’m very exhausted and/or if I’m traveling and eating erratically and I wonder if this is a relieving compulsion or if I’m less anxious in these scenarios. Also, years ago I had a stint with bulimia and so I wonder if my impulse to purge can/cannot translate into an impulse to harm myself via these harm obsessions. On the other hand, my friend and I have gotten into physical altercations where we have thrown things at each other (not knives) and have pushed, punched, and kicked each other. Why can/cannot these fights translate into the killers instinct? How does the harm ocd healing/treatment differ from actionable violence healing/treatment?

    Reply
    • JB,

      A few thoughts…

      1) Don’t waste your time trying to figure out if exhaustion, food, or travel cause or decrease harm obsessions. In fact don’t try to figure out ANYTHING about the thoughts. They are just mental blips that do not require any attention or understanding. Allow them to exist without fighting them. In other words, just ignore them without taking them seriously.

      2) Ditto for trying to figure out if your history of bulimia could translate into Harm OCD.

      3) I cannot guarantee you that your history of of physical fights with your friend won’t escalate into serious violence. I also can’t guarantee you that the world won’t end today. You don’t need guarantees. Just live your life.

      4) That said, if you and your friend are getting into fights where you push, punch and kick each other, you may want to reconsider a) your friendship with this person, and b) whether or not both of you have anger issues that have nothing to do with Harm OCD, but deserve attention anyway.

      5) The treatment for Harm OCD is entirely different from the treatment for being violent.

      Reply
  • Hi tom! I’m so thankful for people like you who help people like us 🙂 I know you have saved many peoples lives! I myself have suffered from harm ocd since I was 8 years old, I am now 33. It would pop up every once in a while when I was younger and u could move past it. fast forward to about 3 months ago my pure ocd thoughts basically gave me a mental breakdown. I would have horrible obsessive thoughts about suicide. I would make myself so sick and depressed about it that I couldn’t differentiate between if I ACTUALLY wanted to kill myself or if it was just ocd. I also have many murder ocd obsessive thoughts that no matter how much I try to “let pass” my mind is stubborn and will not just let it be a thought and move on. I cant eat, and can barley function. My repulsive thoughts are making me so miserable. Any advice you can offer me would be so helpful.

    Reply
    • Nikki,

      Thank you for your kind words. My advice is simple – what you write sounds like textbook Harm OCD. It is very common for people with Harm OCD to obsess about self-harm. I encourage you to seek treatment with a therapist who specializes in treating OCD with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) with an emphasis on a specific CBT technique called Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP).

      Reply

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    Treatment of Gay OCD / HOCD / Sexual Orientation OCD using CBT and Mindfulness is discussed by the OCD Center of Los Angeles. […]
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  • Gay OCD / HOCD / Sexual Orientation OCD
    Symptoms & treatment of Gay OCD, also known as HOCD, or Sexual Orientation OCD. From The OCD Center of Los Angeles. […]
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  • Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) and Teens
    Increasing numbers of teens are having elective cosmetic surgeries to address body image issues, without fully considering the physical and psychological risks involved. […]
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  • Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) and Body Image in the News
    A discussion of BDD and recent news reports about the condition. From the OCD Center of Los Angeles. Serving clients in California and internationally. […]
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  • Treatment of OCD and OC Spectrum Disorders in Children
    The OCD Center of Los Angeles discusses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for the treatment of OCD and anxiety in children and adolescents. […]
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  • Trichotillomania, Skin Picking Disorder, and the Resistor’s High
    The OCD Center of Los Angeles discusses treatment of Trichotillomania (Hair Pulling Disorder) and Dermatillomania (Skin Picking Disorder). […]
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  • Memory Hoarding in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
    Many people with OCD engage in 'memory hoarding', a mental compulsion to over-attend to the details of an event, person, or object. Memory hoarding is done with the belief that the event, person, or object carries a special significance, and may be important to recall exactly as-is at a later date. […]
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  • OCD and the Law – Part 3
    An Australian pro boxer assaults a 70-year old man on a ferry boat and claims his OCD made him do it. Last of a three part series on OCD and the law. […]
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  • OCD and the Law – Part 2
    A Kentucky man murdered his wife and then tried to claim that his OCD led him to kill her. Part 2 of a 3 part series. From the OCD Center of Los Angeles. […]
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  • OCD and the Law – Part 1
    A Scottish man claims his massive child pornography collection is due to OCD. Part 1 of a 3 part series from the OCD Center of Los Angeles. […]
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  • OCD Stockholm Syndrome
    Something akin to the Stockholm Syndrome occurs in some people who struggle with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder ( OCD ). […]
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  • Athletes With Anxiety
    Mental health has long been shrouded in secrecy and shame. So when public figures like professional athletes actively seek help for anxiety, it is a sign of cultural progress. Here are some who have gone public with their struggles. […]
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  • Social Anxiety in Baseball Revisted
    This past week marked the arrival of the 2010 Major League baseball season. And as with last year, this season already has three developing stories of athletes dealing with Social Anxiety. […]
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  • Treatment of OCD and Anxiety: A Brief History
    A look at how the treatment of OCD and related anxiety disorders has changed over time, especially the development of CBT and mindfulness for OCD. […]
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  • Tiger Woods, Sex Addiction, and OCD – Part 2
    Sex addiction is misconstrued by many to be a type of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). This article reviews various factors relevant to determining what diagnosis might be more appropriate. Second of a two part series. […]
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  • Tiger Woods, Sex Addiction, and OCD
    Many people, including professional psychotherapists, incorrectly think of sex addiction as a type of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). This article reviews the essential differences between these two conditions and, how therapeutic strategies used for the treatment of OCD are unlikely to be successful when treating sex addiction. First of a two part series. […]
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  • Latisse and Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)
    The drug Latisse is prescribed to lengthen eyelashes, but it has significant, under-reported side effects. This raises two questions - is Latisse safe, and does its marketing exploit women's body image concerns? […]
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  • Proposed DSM-5 Changes for OCD and Anxiety Disorders
    The American Psychiatric Association (APA) has proposed significant revisions to its "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, Fourth Edition" (DSM-IV). Tom Corboy of the OCD Center of Los Angeles discusses changes planned for the new DSM-5, specifically those relevant to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and related anxiety-based conditions. […]
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  • Reassurance Seeking in OCD and Anxiety
    Those with OCD and other anxiety based conditions often seek reassurance that their unwanted thoughts and feelings are not a threat. The OCD Center of Los Angeles discusses the problem of using reassurance seeking as an anxiety management strategy. […]
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  • Phobia Treatment in Unconventional Settings
    Traditionally, phobias have been treated in a therapist's office. But effective help for phobias can now be found in some very unexpected places. […]
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  • Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) and Cosmetic Surgery
    Many with Body Dysmorphic Disorder turn to cosmetic surgery in an attempt to alleviate their insecurities. Unfortunately, there are plenty of cosmetic surgeons who are more than willing to cash in on those with this serious psychiatric condition. […]
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  • OCD & Anxiety: The Year 2009 in Review
    OCD and anxiety were in the news throughout 2009. Here are our votes for the top stories of the year about OCD and related anxiety based conditions. […]
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  • Bizarre, Disturbing, Weird, and Unwanted Thoughts in OCD
    Everybody has bizarre thoughts. But people with OCD respond differently to these thoughts. From the OCD Center of Los Angeles. […]
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  • Emetophobia treatment at the OCD Center of Los Angeles with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Emetophobia and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
    Emetophobia is the fear of vomit and/or vomiting. Tom Corboy, MFT, Executive Director of the OCD Center of Los Angeles, discusses Emetophobia and its treatment. […]
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  • OCD and Mental Checking
    People with OCD often struggle with 'mental compulsions'. The OCD Center of Los Angeles explores how to manage this sometimes baffling problem. […]
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  • Cyberchondria: Health Anxiety in the 21st Century
    The twin explosions of television and the internet have spawned a sharp increase in Hypochondria, and spawned a new mental health issue - 'Cyberchondria'. […]
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  • Is Compulsive Overeating OCD?
    A discussion of compulsive overeating (aka binge eating) and how it differs from OCD. From the OCD Center of Los Angeles. Serving clients internationally. […]
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  • Cy Young, Zack Greinke, and Social Anxiety
    Zack Greinke has overcome his Social Anxiety to become a superstar in major league baseball. […]
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  • Exposure Therapy for OCD and AnxietyExposure Therapy for OCD and Anxiety
    Exposure therapy for OCD and other anxiety conditions is discussed by Tom Corboy, MFT, of the OCD Center of Los Angeles. […]
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  • Social Anxiety Research
    Recent Social Anxiety research is discussed by Tom Corboy, MFT, executive director of the CD Center of Los Angeles. […]
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  • OCD Awareness Week
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  • CBT and Evidence Based Psychotherapy
    Unfortunately, many psychotherapists dismiss evidence-based treatments such as CBT, instead choosing to do what feels comfortable for them. […]
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  • OCD, Mental Health, and the National Health Care Debate
    A look at the national health care debate, especially as it pertains to OCD and related anxiety based conditions. […]
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  • Childhood OCD, Strep Infections, and PANDAS
    There is a growing body of research that indicates strep infections are related to rapid-onset OCD in children. […]
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  • OCD and the Swine Flu – Part 2
    Panic about the Swine Flu continues, despite facts that suggest there is no cause for increased concern. […]
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  • 2009 Obsessive-Compulsive Foundation Conference
    A review of the 2009 Obsessive Compulsive Foundation conference. […]
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  • New Trichotillomania Research
    A look at recent research related to Trichotillomania. From the OCD Center of Los Angeles. […]
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  • Parenting a Child With OCD
    Parenting any child is a full-time job. But parenting a child with OCD can be particularly challenging. From the OCD Center of Los Angeles. […]
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  • Social Anxiety in Baseball
    A look at the recent rash of pro baseball players struggling with Social Anxiety Disorder. […]
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  • Michael Jackson and Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)
    A look at the sad tale of Michael Jackson and his mental health issues. […]
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  • OCD and the Swine Flu
    The past few months have seen an avalanche of news stories on the Swine Flu, despite its relatively low impact in the US. […]
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  • Meet the OCD Center of Los Angeles Staff
    Meet the OCD Center of Los Angeles Staff […]
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  • Welcome to the OCD Center of Los Angeles Blog
    Welcome to the OCD Center of Los Angeles Blog […]
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